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The Active Rain gods and goddesses, in all their wisdom, must have thought this was a possibility, because they put the option there to delete a comment.  As the originator of a post, you and I have the ability to just delete any comment at will. No jury trial, no witnesses, delete...poof, you're comment is tossed into the digital wastebasket.  First amendment rights don't apply here.

This is an awesome responsibility and shouldn't be taken very lightly, especially if you want to succeed in your blogging efforts.

I don't believe for one minute that what I write is always correct.  Believe me, the erasers on my pencils are worn down to a pretty small nub, and the backspace key on my keyboard is pretty shiny.

The reason I'm thinking about this at all is that I've seen comments on some of my posts, and others as well, that not only disagreed, but were disagreeable, in the manner of the comment.  When a comment is intentionally confrontational in nature, I'm not sure it serves it's purpose any longer in the whole context of the post.

I understand having passion for a point of view but not at the expense of being civil, or at least, trying to be civil.  Blogging, being a flat medium, can easily be taken out of context and misconstrued.

Posting is not done in a vacuum.  What's written here is widely distributed on the web for all to see, including comments.

I have a very low threshold to pass when disagreeing with me, or any other commenter.  All I'm looking for is respectful disagreement.  If you can't word your comment in a respectful manner, than you've chosen to put your comment at risk of being deleted.  Threatening someone is an automatic deletion.  No wailing, no crying, no testimony, no appeal, gone.

So far I've never deleted any comments but have certainly thought about it on more than one occassion.

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Comment balloon 49 commentsRichard Iarossi • November 08 2008 12:50AM


Same here Richard. So far I have not deleted any, but sometimes I am tempted. Especially when the information is simply wrong.

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Posted by Anne Hensel, Realtor - Broker - St. Pete Beach, Treasure Island (South Beaches Real Estate Professionals) almost 11 years ago

I have deleted comments that were, shall we say, inappropriate towards me personally.......only once or twice and I reported to the AR staff who were responsive.....

but as to people disagreeing with what I write, I respect their opinion and move on.....

Posted by Julie Chapman, New Homes Sales Lakeland Florida (DR Horton ) almost 11 years ago

I have deleted a comment. Just one. I wrote a post about a military funeral of a local, home town boy. There were many comments from the public and those on AR, but one public comment in particular was just not appropriate for the situation. I immediately deleted the remarks.

I think we have the obligation to remove remarks that we deem are not appropriate.

Posted by Debbie DiFonzo, Lebanon MO and Buffalo Missouri Real Estate (Debbie DiFonzo - United Country VIP Realty, SW Missouri) almost 11 years ago

Richard - I have deleted 3 comments from the over 200 posts that I have made. 2 were blatant marketing spam having nothing to do with the topic but merely self promotion. The 3rd was a person taking a political position on a post where I clearly stated that political positions would be deleted.

I encourage different positions and discussions on my posts. I have not and will not delete because of that. I would probably delete comments that were loaded with foul language (although the occasional explitive is overlooked) or vicious attacks upon another person. It looks like we are of the same mind on this.

Posted by Mike Saunders (Lanier Partners) almost 11 years ago

Anne,  For me the option is always there but I'll use it with discretion.

Julie,  I haven't run into that yet but would probably do the same as you.

Debbie,  It's interesting...since it's our post we're also associated with the comments as well.

Mike,  Maybe I'm not looking for them but I haven't seen the shameless self promotions.  Rough language is OK, foul isn't.  Interestingly, on our posts we become the judge and jury of what is and what isn't.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

On the most part no!  If it is a violation of any laws..rules..yes..but when people act like a jerk...and are so open to write it...let the world see them in their true colors!  Its their words not day someone left me 78 comments on one post..I really didn't want to delete them..because I wanted everyone to see this persons true colors...and to think I was concerned something crazy was going on Activerain.....I gave the person the benefit of the doubt..and contacted them...imagine that they unsubscribed to me as if I was the one with bad behavior.....  Whoop- di-doo..I have this theory what goes around comes around and the great thing about Karma...I don't have to do a will happen naturally.


Posted by Midori Miller, Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals (Talk 2 Midori, LLC) almost 11 years ago

Writing blogs is a responsbility that I take seriously.  I try to provide valuable and interesting information, not just writing for the accumulation of points.  Thank you for also holding your blog writing in such high regard.

Posted by Morgan Evans, LICENSED REAL ESTATE SALESPERSON (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) almost 11 years ago

Richard - I haven't seen those two people around lately who's comments were limited to self promotion.

Posted by Mike Saunders (Lanier Partners) almost 11 years ago

Midori,  I too believe in Karma...even if I don't believe it works fast enough sometimes.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

That's ok Richard let's put it this way...any business I have in your neck of the woods will definitely go to you!  I agree sometimes it doesn't happen fast enough but it will happen...and believe it or not its happening right now!  I your posts! :)

Posted by Midori Miller, Online Marketing For Real Estate Professionals (Talk 2 Midori, LLC) almost 11 years ago

you know i have seen nasty comments that don't fit the spirit of the post...and those are comments I would delete

Posted by Reid Hayes (Above The Rim LLC) almost 11 years ago

I sure haven't, but I haven't seen any nasty comments on any of my blogs yet.

Posted by Brian Belcher, Charlotte Realtor (RE/MAX Executive) almost 11 years ago

Richard: I have never deleted a comment on any post of mine, as I have never had any comment that deserved to be deleted. I can say, however, I've seen many comments on other people's posts that were very deserving of being DELETED. Some have been down right disgraceful. 

Posted by Kat DeLong, Realtor DRE#01235311, Lake Arrowhead Real Estate ( (LakeView Realty Enterprises, Inc) almost 11 years ago

Richard, everyone has a delete button if they didn't we would have unicorns on the planet..I have deleted a comment that was made late at night by a non-member with no identification or return address - he was a crank call..that disagreed just to disagree ,was very off color in his vulgarities and I'm no wall flower. Steve

Posted by Steve Loynd, 800-926-5653, White Mountains NH ( Alpine Lakes Real Estate Inc., ) almost 11 years ago

Geat post, and I agree.  I have deleted sapm, and any "personal attacks!"  That is unacceptable.  The good news?  Maybe 2 deletions in over 2 years.

Posted by Jim Crawford, Jim Crawford Atlanta Best Listing Agents & REALTOR (Crye-Leike REALTORS®) almost 11 years ago

I've not deleted any personally but I've seen comments on other's blogs that should be. Opinions are just that, opinions. Everybody has one. When presented with respect for the poster as well as the readers, all are welcome. When they become personal or vulgar, that is unacceptable and should be deleted. You would think people would understand there is a time and place for such comments but ignorance never ceases to amaze me.


Posted by Richard Shuman, Real Estate Broker - Orlando Area - Love Referrals (The Only B.S. I Have is from the University of Massachusetts) almost 11 years ago


I'm wrestling with that right now. I deleted a comment only to have a more angry comment from the same person appear. I am leaving it for now - it doesn't belong but I am torn. However, I am going to use my veto power and delete them - based on some great supporting comments you have received. To be sure, there are people who aren't responsible enough to be blogging on AR and need to find other forums. :)


Posted by Steve Hoffacker, Certified Aging In Place Specialist-Instructor (Steve Hoffacker LLC) almost 11 years ago

I haven't posted all that much and I rarely post anything controversial. I would never delete a comment that disagrees with me, I welcome healthy debate, but I would in a heartbeat if I felt that it was abusive to me or other commenters.

Posted by Beth Forbes, Your 24/7 loan officer (The mortgage help you want when you need it.) almost 11 years ago

Morgan,   Thanks, I agree.  Writing quality content is difficult but rewarding.

Midori,  Back at you. Thanks!

Ken,  I haven't yet and hope I'm not put in that position.  That being said, I will delete a comment for just cause, not just disagreement.

Brian,  I hope your record continues.

Kat,  Kind of weird that they're out there.  It just isn't necessary.

Steve,  If you can't even have the guts to sign on instead of commenting anonymously, you don't deserve to play.

Jim,  Good record, I hope it holds for you.  I'm not an advocate of deleting comments.

Richard,  Love the quote, I've used it in the past too.  Respect is the minimum standard.

Steve,  There does seem to be a lot of support for deleting disrespectful comments with just cause.  Remember, his comments are attached to your post for all to see on the internet.

Beth,  That's my policy too.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

Richard, I've received over 25,000 comments and have deleted less than 10. At one time we were actually able to edit comments on our posts. That didn't go over to well as there were some folks who would actually change other's comments!!! I strongly believe in NOT deleting and the handful of times I did was mostly because of extreme profanity or spam.

Posted by Bryant Tutas, Selling Florida one home at a time (Tutas Towne Realty, Inc and Garden Views Realty, LLC) almost 11 years ago

Bryant,  I agree but I'm glad the option is there for extreme cases.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

Hi Richard,

My answer, NO I've not deleted another's comment on any of my posts. Yet I have deleted my own  comment on another's post. After I said something I felt uncomfortable about it and decided to delete what I said. I really didn't want to be a part of what was going on at times.

Posted by Lynda Eisenmann, Broker-Owner,CRS,CDPE,GRI,SRES, Brea,CA, Orange Co (Preferred Home Brokers) almost 11 years ago

very good and deserving of a feature!  although i haven't yet, but I have requested that the commenter go back and reword or delete! :-)

Posted by Liz Moras Migic, Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor almost 11 years ago

Great FEATURE question Richard!  I have deleted SPAM.  Happy blogging! ;o)

Posted by Marlene Pellegrini almost 11 years ago

Seems that inappropriate comments should be deleted. Some people push the envelope. All the best.

Posted by Bob & Carolin Benjamin, East Phoenix Arizona Homes (Benjamin Realty LLC) almost 11 years ago

Yes.  When I feel they are inappropriate (racially charged, etc.) that could cause harm or offense to others (or myself!) they are gone.

It's my blog and my reputation.

Posted by Kris Wales, Real Estate Blog & Homes for Sale search site, Macomb County MI (Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center) almost 11 years ago

OK Rich...

First, you can't continue posting at all hours of the day and night. You have to sleep some time! I recently made a comment on a political post that may have been a bit aggressive, and the poster responded in such a kind way that I deleted my own comment and saved him the decision.

I usually only delete spam, I like a good spat!

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) almost 11 years ago


Goodness.  I've deleted quite a few. 

I delete comments that are blatent advertising for a competitor.  Geez.  What are they thinking that they can put links to their web site, in my market, on my blog????  BLEEP.

I've deleted comments that got personally insulting.  BLEEP.

I've deleted comments that got too nasty.  BLEEP.

I welcome disagreement, but if the writer disagrees with nasty language, BLEEP.

All the above said, I've probably deleted only about 25 comments.  That's a small number out of over 20,000 comments received. 



Posted by Lenn Harley, Real Estate Broker - Virginia & Maryland (Lenn Harley,, MD & VA Homes and Real Estate) almost 11 years ago

Morning Rich!  Just thought about this yesterday - and been deciding whether or not I should delete a comment from one of my posts!  On the positive side for negative comments - the diversity of opinions on AR are what make it very cool for anyone to come and read just about anything that interests them.  I have experienced that for myself BEFORE joining.   Part of how I handle negativity is believing that people who are critical enough to put things down in writing for everyone to see on the Internet - especially if it doesn't add to the content - usually end up making themselves look bad instead of making the writer look bad.  I too have a low threshold for passing on someone who disagrees with me or worse writes something that is inappropriate -- so I would welcome to read another post from you about tactfully responding to those folks!  Nicely written post -- thanks for helping me today!   --Gabrielle

Posted by Gabrielle Kamahele Rhind, Broker/Owner (KGC Properties LLC, Tucson Property Management & Real Estate) almost 11 years ago

Lynda,  I've gone back to modify my own comments on other posts after thinking about how they sounded as well.

Liz,  When you did that, did they respond in kind?

Marlene,  Spam is a no-no but I really haven't seen any on my posts.

Bob and Caroline,  I don't mind pushing the envelope as long as its done appropriately.


Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

Kris,  You're right, it is your reputation and those comments are attached to the entire blog for all to see.

Richard,  Nuking your own comment.  Reflection is a wonderful thing.

Lenn,  You've had a lot more experience with 20K comments received.  I'm sure I'll get the opportunity at some time.

Gabrielle,  I love the diversity of thought and opinion here on Active Rain.  You're right in your assessment, commenters usually make themselves look bad when they take the negative or confrontational path.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

I never have but I don't get the comments you folks get. But hey it's your blog and s do what you feel you ned to do because even though it is someone elses comments it is linked to you through the blog.

Posted by Charles Stallions, 800-309-3414 - Pensacola, Pace or Gulf Breeze, Fl. (Charles Stallions Real Estate Services ) almost 11 years ago

Great points Richard.  I've come close to deleting comments, especially ones commenting on political issues.  Sometimes the debate gets so heated that name calling erupts.  That's when I've almost hit the delete link!

Posted by Colleen Lane, Realtor(r) 509.438.9344 (Kennewick Richland (and West) Pasco WA Homes For Sale) almost 11 years ago

The only posts I have deleted were spam with blatant advertising and links to the spammers site. Other wise everyone is entitled to an opinion.

Posted by Russell Lewis, Broker,CLHMS,GRI (Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate) almost 11 years ago

I generally let all comments stay unless it might be vulgar or an advertisement...I don't think its appropriate to leave a link in the comments section as a solicitation...that's just my opinion.

Posted by Neal Bloom, Realtor CRS-Weston FL Real Estate (Brokered by eXp Realty LLC) almost 11 years ago

Richard: I have deleted a few comments from my posts when they were spam or when the comments went too far afield off-topic. I write my posts to share my knowledge, learn how my peers would handle a certain situation and to build my business and attract clients. I delete comments that work against those goals or if they are harmful or disrepectful to me or others.

Posted by Michelle Minch, Home Staging Los Angeles and Pasadena, CA (Moving Mountains Design Home Staging, Pasadena, CA) almost 11 years ago

Richard, I have never had to delete anyone's comments yet---but I do have some guidelines that must be met and at times I might be too tolerant:)  I have had some commenters correct obvious "technical" errors (wrong information).  Never had to delete anybody yet though----knock on wood.  I have seen comments on other people's blogs that I would have deleted however:)

Posted by Charles Buell, Seattle Home Inspector (Charles Buell Inspections Inc.) almost 11 years ago


I have deleted a comment.  I did not think it was encouraging for any consumer to read.  Because anybody can read these posts & comments, I scrutinize everything to assure that no one will the wrong impression.

Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Yvette Smith, Realtor In Williamsburg VA, Homes for Sale (LONG & FOSTER) almost 11 years ago

I'm running a business not a public service.

My blog is an extension of who I am. If I don't like a comment -- for any freakin' reason -- I will delete it. I feel no community obligation to leave other people's garbage dumped on my front porch. That's not to say that if a reader disagrees with my point of view that I won't leave the comment intact because I typically do not delete those who hold a different opinion. But it's my sandbox, and I make the rules.

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Posted by Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%, Put 40 years of experience to work for you (RE/MAX Gold) almost 11 years ago

Charles,  We do become associated with our comments, for all to read.

Colleen,  I've come pretty close too.

Russell,  I'm OK with differing opinions but I've seen some downright nasty and uncalled for comments. 

Neal,  Haven't seen it in my posts but they will get the boot, or I'll ask them to modify their comments by removing the link.

Michelle,  Sounds like a reasonable way to run your blog.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

Charles,  If someone corrects misinformation in a post I'm OK with that.  While I strive for accuracy, I do make mistakes.

Yvette,  I read from other posters that they infrequently go back to look at their comments.  I think that's a minority, at least I hope it is.

Elizabeth,  Our blogs are an extension of who we are.  We're in agreement here, disagreement is fine, if done in a sincere and agreeable manner.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

Richard~ I have never even had to think about using it, but I am glad it is there, just in case! 


Posted by Vickie McCartney, Broker, Real Estate Agent Owensboro KY (Maverick Realty) almost 11 years ago


Some members get pretty passionate about things at times and voice their opinions too forcefully. If they disrespectfully attack, then it may be time to delete. The delete button is a necessary deterrent.

Posted by Esko Kiuru almost 11 years ago

Richard, In over 2 years of being here in Active Rain, I think I've only deleted a comment once or twice. Both times they were comments of individuals who were simply advertising their wares. There comment had nothing to do with the post written and their links were self promoting.

That makes for an automatic deletion.

Glad it doesn't happen often and usually it is someone who hasn't bothered to read the rules. After deleting their comment, I always send them an AR email to let them know why.

Posted by Gena Riede, Real Estate Broker - Sacramento CA Real Estate (916) 417-2699 (Riede Real Estate, Lic. 01310792) almost 11 years ago

Richard, I may be off base here but it seems for the past several weeks we have had too much political discussion.  Discussing issues is one thing, but people who choose to take a strong political position on the internet are opening the door to just about anything.

Posted by Darla Jensen (Edina Realty) almost 11 years ago

Vickie,  I've thought about it but never deleted one yet, but, like you I'm glad its there too.

Esko,  The deterrence is there but some commenters just don't care.

Gena,  Good practice to send them an email letting them know why.  Hope I don't have to use it.

Darla,  The political posts are the worst.  Unfortunately, they haven't gone away yet either.

Posted by Richard Iarossi, Crofton MD Real Estate, Annapolis MD Real Estate (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) almost 11 years ago

Good topic Richard... I am about to delete a post on my AR blog. It is the 2nd one in a year.

It is a non member posting that is pure spam.The 1st one was a member who was new and did not know better.

On my non AR blogs it is a constant job monitoring spammers.

I would delete political comments even if I agreed with the commenter - I don't think that AR is the right forum for politics.

Posted by Lee Walsh, Executive Talent Scout for Mortgage Professionals (SecurityNational Mortgage) over 10 years ago

I've never deleted a comment either, but I have set someone straight in the comment box below.  I do think that under certain circumstances deletion would be appropriate.

Posted by Janna Scharf, Coeur d'Alene Idaho Real Estate Expert (Keller Williams Realty Coeur d'Alene) over 10 years ago

I've never deleted a comment from one of my posts. I have however deleted a comment that I made on another post. I commented something and then another rainer posted a comment after me that was pretty disparaging and rude. So, I deleted my comment. I emailed the blogger and told them why... and I moved on. I just didn't want to be associated on that post. ~A:)

Posted by Alisha Harrison, Allyn, Belfair and Hood Canal real estate expert! (John L. Scott, Belfair) over 10 years ago

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